Attended K.Nita’s wedding at Royale Bintang Seremban. It was quite eventful. Syami was the MC and the events were Gamelan music, martial arts display, singings, and so on.

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Wedding ceremonies these days has gone beyond its original intent, I reckon. This is just a personal opinion by the way. Disagree with me all you want.

Imagine this. The hosts and the guests are 30 feet away from the guests throughout the event. This is because the hosts sit at a special “King and Queen of the day” table on a raised platform while the guests are admiring from the floor below.

The only chance for hosts-guests greeting is during exit from the hallway where the bride and groom would be waiting at the “gate” out.

In the older days, the folks got to know each other while preparing for the feast. Everybody brought a little bit of something or contributed energy and efforts in the wedding arrangement. There was synergy so people generally come together. Nowadays, you receive an invitation, appear and eat. No wonder the folks across the table wouldn’t know each other. At least that’s an opportunity to get to know but most wouldn’t simply talk. It’s like everyone has too high of a profile, they couldn’t let their guards down.

In my example, I attempted to melt the tension and speak so it wouldn’t be too awkward. Twice. Twice short reply and no return question.

Either people had gone less friendlier compared to the older days or I had appeared on the wrong event, on the wrong time.



One Response to “Anita & Wan wedding at Royale Bintang Seremban”  

  1. 1 chubbipenguin

    wedding is a celebration for the both~ not a get to knoe each other thingy~ ? rite? u are just to paranoid if u think that everyone is having their guards up, thats why they are not talking to u~ enjoy the wedding and celebrate the couple~ unless u are secretly wishing that u are the groom? -_-”

    wedding is indeed celebration for both but with two underlying intents: 1) to announce and make it public, and 2)for relatives and friends to gather: increasing and maintaining relationships with each other. (i’m pretty sure every culture promotes this one way or another, via new year dinner..etc, wedding is just one of ‘em) i agree with you if wedding is a celebration for the both, but i disagree with you to say that it’s not a get-together and get-to-know thingy. even if you know 1 person more, you should be better off.

    paranoia, hm… the ladies around the reception table (not the receptionist herself, no one was sitting there as I arrived) responded to a guest/unknown like me as i approached looking for my seat. and when i moved and casually chatted with somebody else on other tables, they were very responsive. so… i don’t understand what paranoia you’re talking about. of course i enjoy the wedding, i even said it was eventful. of course i celebrate the couple… can’t you read the title. that should rule out secretly wishing i am the groom too. you seem to assume a lot.

    obviously u’ve never been to the early weddings? hey, i have to be fair with assumptions, right.

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